2014 Reflections // Gratitude

I chose GRATITUDE as my focus word at the beginning of 2014. Now, I am ending the year feeling more full, more thankful and more truly grateful than I have ever felt before.

Practicing gratitude directly and with focus over the last 12 months has meant that being grateful feels a part of me. I immediately feel grateful for even the littlest things – the salt water on my skin, the giggle of my children in my ears, and my husbands hand in mine as we journeyed through this years ups and downs together.

I now know what it is that I want to be grateful for. I now know that gratitude is about creating a life where EVERYTHING in it is something I can feel grateful for.

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2014 has been a truly blessed year, but also one that was full of challenges for me personally. I struggled, I fell down, I lost my way. I forgot to appreciate myself. This was a hard lesson for me to learn but I am slowly realising that it’s my most important lesson. I learned this year that I had put myself on the back-burner and that it wasn’t healthy or helpful to do that. I learned that letting my light shine wasn’t only important, but that it was a necessity.

Throughout this year I re-discovered myself. Sometimes it felt like I was finally on the right path and at other times it felt like one thing after another was going wrong, like all my hard work was pointless. In hindsight, I know it was all a crucial part of the journey and I learned to have gratitude for even the days that caused me stress and hurt.

My perspective began to shift once I started doing this and choosing joy was easier than before. I always tried to live my life by looking at the positive, on the bright side, and now I don’t feel that I have to try anymore. It comes easily now and this makes me realise how 12 months of really deep inner work has so many benefits.

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This year I worked on reconnecting with myself, and I felt so supported by Brian and my friends and family to really try new things and find myself again. I am so grateful for that.

Brian and I really felt into our deep desires for our family and allowed them to blossom. We made our family, our happiness and future together our first priority, and we refused to feel that we should settle for any less than amazing. We do live an amazing life and I couldn’t be more grateful for it.

My children, oh, they’re beings of goodness and light and although as every mama knows the days are long, the years are so very short. Time passes in the blink of an eye and I just want to soak up every inch of time with these three amazing little people. I’m so thankful that I have the opportunity to be their mama.

So thank you 2014, you set in motion a foundation I will continue to build on for the rest of my life and I cannot wait to see what 2015 brings. I know it is going to be epic and full of ABUNDANCE.

Our Unschooling Journey – The Week in Review

Blake started off the week helping to clean the lounge room.

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We use a similar approach to Happiness is Here in her post about cleaning up and find it works wonders.

Our nephews birthday party was held at a gorgeous park and Daisy had fun challenging herself with stair-climbing and sliding on her own.

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Hannah was also proud to discover that she can now easily use the monkey bars.

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There was an old steam roller in the park which caught Blake’s attention and he remembered a similar train in a book we had recently bought from the op-shop.

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That night we checked out the beautiful natural light show in the sky by the moon…

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And also some beautiful man-made light shows on the car drive home.

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Monday was spent crafting,

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shopping list writing,

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and we started work on our homemade Christmas cards.

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I loved seeing Daisy inspired by all the writing going on around her to make her own mark on paper.

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Learning about the countries and flags of the world has been an ongoing interest here for the last year. We have a trip planned overseas in 2015 so I recently downloaded this app called Map the World which they have been really enjoying.

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There were wheelbarrow rides on Tuesday.

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And Bob was kind enough to read a few stories to tired kiddies in the heat of the day.

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On Wednesday we continued working on our Christmas cards,

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And Blake decided to join in. He was invited to join Hannah and I to work on the Christmas cards several days ago and he declined. Hannah has been writing, cutting and glueing on them since but still Blake has chosen to do other things. This hasn’t been a problem, I know craft isn’t his forte.

Hannah was writing inside the cards so she showed him how to write ‘To’. He scribbled some other letters and as I was dictating the letters of people’s names to Hannah (her preferred way to write) I saw that he was getting discouraged that she was able to write letters that he couldn’t.

So I asked Blake if he wanted to write his name. He nodded excitedly and I suggested he write a B which he did easily! (B is obviously not an easy letter for young children to write and Blake has only shown interest in writing his name about a dozen times all year. Generally he lost interest after A so we hadn’t really even discussed K before.) He initially wrote the letter L upside down and added a H so I wrote his name on another piece of paper do he could visually see and copy it while we were saying the letters which he happily did. He was so proud of himself when he did it and could wait to show Daddy this afternoon!

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It’s interesting watching Blake learn new skills as it’s very different to Hannah. It’s always very easy to see Hannah’s progress as she practices any new skill a lot before she masters it. Blake has always been the type of person to not visually or physically show any evidence of advancement until he surprises us with the learning all at once! Obviously things are connecting in his mind all the time but until he shows it to me I have no idea it’s happening!!!

This is where trust comes in. Trust that everyone learns new things when they’re ready and in the way that perfectly suits them as an individual.

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I am so honoured to get to watch this process in action every day. There is nothing better than being the person who gets to see my children’s face light up with pride and excitement! Of course any new skill from crawling to riding a bike to writing a word are celebrated here But I do like to share posts like this in detail because the most common question I am asked is, “How will they learn to read and write without being taught/instructed/forced to?” And this is just our example. Two kids happily learning how to write and third who is loving putting pen to paper already so I think learning from life is definitely working for us!

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We also received our first Christmas card in the mail and after writing Merry Christmas on the front and inside all of our homemade cards,  Hannah was happy to be able to read it easily!

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We visited the library on Thursday morning and when we got home lots of fun Lego Duplo play ensued. Daisy is loving taking things out and putting things back in boxes and containers so she loved doing this with Hannah.

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Blake happily played with the horses – one of their favourite games at the moment – in the background.

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They then worked together to create a few towers to display on our shelves.
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Later, they re-constructed a game they have played on and off all year. They stand on our stool and tie a long piece of string or ribbon to our coffee table and then take turn ‘racing’ a plastic bangle down the string. Lots of incidental learning about velocity and angles in this game and they constantly experimented with how taut to pull the string in order to make the bangle go faster.

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My sister was able to come over on Friday to give me a hand tidying up all those messy shelves you see in the photo above!!

Here are a few peeks at some of the items we have available.
The brown shelf usually contains wooden blocks, small animal toys, musical insturments and Daisy’s toys on the bottom shelf, and then puzzles, reference books and some maths, english and geography based materials which cover the main interests the children have at the moment.

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The white shelves contain all our art and craft materials which are freely available to use anytime.

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Blake then decided to do some more writing on the cards and managed to write ‘To Harry’ on his cousins card. Hannah wrote the rest and decorated it too. Such great teamwork!

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We squeezed in a little Christmas crafting too. I initially saw this idea from a fellow Instagram mama, and since we have some gorgeous gumnuts at the park down the road we decided to put them to good use.

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I wasn’t feeling the best on Saturday so not too many photos but I did notice Hannah working on this Fairy house she created earlier in the year. She added a path and some furniture to the house.

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To end the week we were invited over by friends for a lovely lunch and we exchanged Christmas gifts. Hannah and Blake particularly loved their real Christmas tree and they had fun playing with their friends.

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This afternoon Daisy discovered a Christmas Beetle in the backyard, and it was another lovely reminder of the different natural changes that happen at this time of year.

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Make sure to head on over to Memoirs of a Childhood, Racheous – Lovable Learning, Happiness is Here and An Everyday Story to check out what they’ve been up to this week and to get a taste of how natural learning happens in different families.

Thank you for joining me here once again and sharing in our week! If you have any questions or thoughts feel free to leave them in the comments, I love to hear from you!
Our unschooling journey is ours – it’s a representation of how we live and therefore, how we learn. Our children have the freedom to question, wonder, experiment, play, create and explore at will. The photos and words in these weekly excerpts are just an overview and based on the memory I have of the weeks events. There will have been more learning than I could possibly cover here happening in the minds of each of my children every day. And there is a lot of ‘real life’ that happens in our weeks too – lots of negotiation, compromise, frustration and tantrums – because all of that is a part of living and learning, together.

Our Unschooling Journey | The Week in Review

Our week started off with beautiful weather and a fun outing. We were invited by a friend to a ‘mama haircut day’ where all us mums were going to take turns getting our haircut while the others supervised the children and prepared lunch. These friends have a very cool backyard with a kid-sized zipline between trees, a flourishing veggie patch and a gorgeous group of chooks. Although we’ve never had chickens as pets, several friends of ours do and one friend in particular has hens that are very friendly and tame and Hannah has enjoyed cuddling them in the past. So after collecting the eggs with her friends, Hannah assumed that these chooks were just as friendly as the ones she is used to, and proceeded to try to pick them up and give them a gentle hug. I call her my “chicken whisperer” as she honestly has the touch!

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Two out of the four chooks were happy to be patted, held and talked to by her even though the family who owns them doesn’t generally engage with them like that. Hannah was truly in love and in her element. She explained to the smaller kids how to pick up and hold the hens gently and made sure they were all safe and comfortable. Us mamas kept an eye on the chickens and when they started getting a bit hot and tired we asked the kids to put them back in their coop which they happily did.

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When it was my turn to get a haircut, Hannah asked if she could get ‘just a little’ haircut first. We worked out that she wanted a trim and after a chat with the hairdresser about her preferences, she sat down for her cut. I was really surprised she chose to do that as she hadn’t said anything beforehand, but Blake had had a haircut on the weekend so maybe she had been considering it already. I love when I see that my children are comfortable making choices like this about their bodies of their own accord. I think that’s a really important lesson to learn.

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Later I spied some sweet moments between siblings in the hammock.

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On Tuesday – which as I mentioned last week is generally the biggest day in our week – we spend the morning at the city farm as usual.

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Daisy enjoyed having her feet painted with clay by Hannah and a friend and later used the paintbrush to give it a go on her own.

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As I was talking to Bob who volunteers at the farm and is an amazing guide and additonal influence with the children, I noticed something moving in the grass. At first I thought it was a snake but then I saw the little legs and the striking blue tongue.

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It was a Blue Tongue Lizard!  Of-course we kept out of the way but it walked around the perimiter of the childrens area  for about 10 minutes enabaling us to get a great look. I haven’t seen one in the wild since I was a child and Bob mentioned he hadn’t seen one at the farm before either so we very very lucky to see one! We talked a little about what the lizard might eat, where it might be going and wondered why it has a blue tongue. Such a gentle and interesting creature. I tried hard to take a photo of it with the blue tongue sticking out but it was near impossible!

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That afternoon we headed to my parents house as usual. Grandpa was setting up the train that circles the Christmas tree so Hannah and Blake asked to help out. They needed to work out how to fit the batteries to make the motor work by matching the + and – and then there was some trouble with the track layout so they needed to fix that as well. It was interesting watching them try to solve the problems and develop solutions and they were so proud of themselves once they figured it out.

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My sister then pulled out the craft box for Hannah and Blake and using the materials in the box and their imagination, they made these gorgeous snowmen. This was fabulous as I hadn’t added a Christmas craft to their advent calendar that day! I found some letter cards in the craft box and picked out the ones for Snowman. I then brought them out all mixed up and then Hannah and I sounded out the letter sounds to make the word together.

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Next, Hannah began work on a special painting. About a month ago at a friends place, Hannah drew a picture of a mango tree and I had an idea. Brian’s Nanna (the children’s great-grandmother) who we will be visiting for Christmas, has a mango tree in the backyard that has been the centrepiece of many family memories and his Granddads ashes are scattered around the base. I asked Hannah if she would like to do a painting of the mango tree, based on her drawing, to gift to Nanna for Christmas and she agreed. I later suggested she ask for my sisters guidance with the project as she is an artist and works with canvas and acrylic paints frequently. My sister agreed and Hannah learned a few new skills about painting while also creating a memory that we hope Nanna will love and treasure.

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That night we had to stay at my parents house because I had locked my keys in our house that morning. Brian was away for the week for work and he has the spare set! Lucky I always keep some spare clothes for the kids at my parents house and I am the same size as my sister!!! Hannah and Blake thought it was great of-course and reveled in the extra treats and staying up late.

On Wednesday we headed to a friends house for a playdate where there was a lot of glitter crafts for the kids and much discussion and play about their mutual love of the movie Frozen! We also received some stunningly thoughtful Christmas gifts from our friends and were sad we couldn’t give ours to them as they were locked safely in our house!

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In the afternoon Hannah, Blake and Daisy all helped my parents in the garden with varying degrees of actual helpfullness by Daisy darling…

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Hannah was then inspired to do a quick painting of Grandmas garden.

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And you can see in the background of the above photo a couple of pine-cones painted with yellow paint which I started doing while we chatted and then Hannah chose to make her own and decorate it with petals from the garden.

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We decided to do some op-shopping on Thursday morning with my sister (so handy now that she is finished school and has plenty of time to hang out with me and my kids!) and managed to get to a few before things started to fall apart.

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Blake always finds it quite hard when Brian is away and his emotions were hitting their peak. We cut the op-shopping short and then Brian called me to tell me he had made it back home a little earlier than planned which was music to my sore, tired, worn out ears!

Brian and I also celebrated our 12 year anniversary since we became a couple on Thursday and he bought me these gorgeous blooms! I love yellow, and I feel like it’s a bit of a theme colour this week!

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It was late night shopping and I really wanted to get our Wishing Tree gifts organised so we all went to the shops together to choose a few gifts. This was a complete disaster as everyone was in meltdown mode, and in hindsight wasn’t the wisest choice to make. I took time that night to really re-centre myself and remind myself of the type of parent I wanted to be, rather than the one I had been at times during this stressful week.

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So on Friday we chilled out at home and I made sure to tune in, listen up and re-connect. There was a lot of movie watching together and quiet play on the floor.

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When Daddy came home from work we all walked to the park. We took the time to notice our neighbours beautiful Frangipani tree flowering and I mentioned to Hannah and Blake that like the Poinciana that we saw last week, this tree also blooms in December and is a nice way to recognise Christmas is on the way. Last year Hannah was quite distressed to realise that we would never have snow to enjoy during Christmas time, so I researched what seasonal guideposts there were in this state of long summers and little variation from month to month. Frangipanis were just one of the flowers I found that flowered this time of year and as we collectively love trees, this was a lovely way to introduce the local changes we’ll see every December.

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At the park, Blake decided to re-attempt swinging himself on a swing and was filled with pride when he was able to coordinate it. You can see he is concentrating especially hard in this photo!

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As I was taking photos of Blake, I noticed next to me that Daisy had decided to do some experimenting and taste-testing.

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On the walk back home we collected some fallen gum-nuts to use for a Christmas craft activity I have planned for next week.

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We noticed another storm rolling in over the rooftops of neighbours houses.

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 On Saturday it was time to celebrate St Nicholas Day! This is a lovely tradition my family did all through my childhood as we are European. We totally forgot about asking the children to put their boots out the night before but luckily I had put a few little treasures away earlier last week, that I quickly wrapped up for Hannah, Blake and Daisy.

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The kids were so excited to receive these little gifts and after they had had a little play we took the time to talk about what the story of St Nicholas means to us and how we admire and choose to emulate his kind and generous spirit every Christmas by giving to those less fortunate than ourselves. So we jumped into the car to put our lovely gifts under the Kmart Wishing Tree.

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Blake felt a little sad that he couldn’t give his gift to his chosen child personally as he didn’t quite understand this year that it was almost an anonymous process. He wrote his name on the card and we reminded him that the child who receives his gift at Christmas would surely send a lot of love to Blake in his heart.

Back at home Daisy and Blake had a long nap, so Brian and Hannah indulged in some Kinetic Sand play.

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It’s Sunday now, we have spent the morning hanging out at home doing some housework and now we’re off to our nephews birthday party. I will add the photos of that to next weeks post!

Please pop over to see what Happiness is Here, Racheous – Lovable Learning, An Everyday Story and Memoirs of a Childhood are up to in their weekly learning wihtout school adventures!

Thank you for joining me here once again and sharing in our week! If you have any questions or thoughts feel free to leave them in the comments, I love to hear from you!
Our unschooling journey is ours – it’s a representation of how we live and therefore, how we learn. Our children have the freedom to question, wonder, experiment, play, create and explore at will. The photos and words in these weekly excerpts are just an overview and based on the memory I have of the weeks events. There will have been more learning than I could possibly cover here happening in the minds of each of my children every day. And there is a lot of ‘real life’ that happens in our weeks too – lots of negotiation, compromise, frustration and tantrums – because all of that is a part of living and learning, together.